Can Just Sex Relationships Work?
You’ve probably tried or fantasized about just having sex. Who doesn’t? Whether you call it a causal relationship, friends with perks, boyfriend and girlfriend, or no strings attached, the idea is good In theory. Imagine having all your physical needs met by someone who is attracted to you without having to discuss something silly like a weed remover this week. Unfortunately, sex-only relationships are often better in theory than in practice. But that doesn’t mean they don’t belong. Especially if you are not ready for a real commitment. Before taking the plunge, it’s important to consider the perks and cons of this type of relationship. Below, we’ve rounded up some sex-only perks and cons to keep in mind for your next normal day.
The pros and cons of fair sex are carefully considered!
Pros: You’re less likely to hurt other people’s feelings in the pursuit of sex
When it comes to sex, things get complicated. There are awkward moments when a few meet where you’re like, “Is this just about sex?” Or does this person want more? If you know that sex is all you want, being honest about it can help you stay satisfied. In turn, you should hope not to hurt the other person’s feelings in this process.
Having the right sex will satisfy your needs so that you don’t waste time on people who may want more. When in doubt, tell your partner that you are looking for a causal relationship. Don’t be ashamed. It’s easier for everyone if you’re honest from the start.
Cons: You may develop feelings for your partner
The problem with sex-only relationships is that biology doesn’t always require us to have them. No matter how clear you are that you only want the “no strings attached” mode, our body chemistry may have other features. When you have sex, your body releases a chemical called oxytocin. This brain chemical can lead to the effects of addiction. If you are having frequent sex with the same partner, these feelings of attraction can become stronger. It might make you think, “If I’m having a good time with this person, why not make it worse?” Or, worse, “I’ve been sleeping with this person for six months now, why can’t they be worse than me?” These intrusive thoughts can happen even though you know your friend with perks may not be the right partner for you. The mind works in mysterious ways.
Pros: one person will always meet your physical needs
There is no shame in seeking the right sex. Most people need sex or some kind of physical sensation to be satisfied. If you’re not in a serious relationship, it can be difficult, unsatisfying, or just plain awkward to meet your sexual needs.
Just having sex with one person can feel better and more comfortable than going from stranger to stranger. After all, the more you have sex with one person, the more you will know about the other person’s interests.
Cons: There is often a lack of communication
The problem with these types of relationships is that many people don’t think they are relationships at all. They say to them, “If I had time, I would have had a serious relationship.” The other person may be worried about starting a serious conversation because they know it’s not a serious relationship. But, as in a strong relationship, communication is the key.
The pitfall: everyone has different expectations
Your idea of fair sex might involve texting your partner on a Saturday night to see if they’re ready to meet up as soon as the bar closes, and that’s it. Thinking about your partner might include texting them every day of the week to check in or calling them an Uber in the morning instead of just saying “see you soon” and hoping they find out. Even if your relationship with sex is like that, there are many things that you and your partner may have different opinions on.
For example, are you comfortable sleeping together on a cold night or staying at your partner’s house after sex? Would you be okay if your partner had sex with one of your friends? Will your partner contact you if they’re not interested or can they inspire you? Of course, you probably won’t solve these problems right away. But once you start dating, these are good things to consider before they become a problem.
Pros: There’s an opportunity to push your sexuality in new ways
People always say to have better sex with the one you love. Although I do not agree, there is also beneficial sex. Basically, you can feel comfortable trying things that you wouldn’t do in a serious relationship.
For example, you may not want to have sex with your boyfriend because of jealousy of seeing him with another girl. But it can be fun to try a couple at random from a bar you’ve never seen before. Likewise, you may feel more comfortable experimenting with your partner in the bedroom.
Cons: You can get into more than sex
The problem with sex is that there are many moving parts. When you’re intimate with someone, you might end up telling them about your latest professional movie. Or, you can ask your hunky hookup friend if he can build your new IKEA shelves next weekend.
This is why rules and limits are important. There are many stories of people who chose a partner based on sexual connection, only to have a strong relationship with them, even though they are not compatible.
Decide what works for you
Before you jump into anything, be honest with yourself about what you really want. It can be easy to say that you just want to have sex. But if you want more, that’s a sign that a more serious relationship is a better way.
If so, go on a purposeful date and try to be with people whose personality matches your long-term needs and wants – not just those you think you have great sex with. Whichever way you choose, remember to be safe and enjoy the journey!